It has been said that one of the major hurdles to ending addiction is the recognition that one is an addict. Although denial if a problem is, in itself a problem, personally it has been my experience coaching individuals for over 20 years that identifying one’s self as an addict “is” part of the problem! To understand more clearly why and what can be done about it read this.
I am going to take you on a journey that I trust will help to both raise your consciousness about the nature of addiction as well as begin to help you, if you believe yourself to be an addict, free yourself from this enslavement. Before you do however please be warned that it will challenge the very nature of your existence and how you have chosen to structure your life up until now.
So here we go.
Let me start with the commonly held notion that many addicts have, that is if they are “responsible” addicts, which is the belief:
“I am an addict”
So what is the benefit to you choosing to believe this? Well you might venture something like: “It helps me to check myself so that I will remain in control of my addictive tendencies”
I then ask you what the benefits of doing that would be for you and you might add, “Well that then would allow me to feel in control of myself, strong, confident, in charge of my life and my health, like a responsible and self respecting human being, good about myself, with high self worth, integrity and thus able to live a rich and fulfilling life”
So, I would summarize what you have just said as: The belief that I am an addict makes me feel in control of myself, strong, confident, in charge of my life and my health, like a responsible and self respecting human being, good about myself, with high self worth, integrity and thus able to live a rich and fulfilling life.
I call this the Summary Statement, which I will refer to again shortly.
Now I ask you to describe what the belief “I am an addict” actually makes you feel like and you might say something like: “Well it makes me feel defective, out of control of myself, inadequate, embarrassed, ashamed, bad about myself, with low self esteem, low self confidence, low self worth, weak, vulnerable, unhealthy and possibly sick”
So then I might ask: Is this belief creating a life enhancing state or a life depleting state? You, on reflection, would likely agree that it is life depleting and hence it is killing you which would make the belief itself “toxic” to you.
If you agreed with that then I would ask you to place one hand over your Heart and as if you are speaking to yourself from your Heart to simply affirm to yourself that the belief “I am an addict” is toxic to you.
I would then ask you to go back and re-read the Summary Statement. (Please do that now)
(Summary Statement): The belief that I am an addict makes me feel in control of myself, strong, confident, in charge of my life and my health, like a responsible and self respecting human being, good about myself, with high self worth, integrity and thus able to live a rich and fulfilling life.
So does this statement sound like a true or false statement to you?
With reflection I think you will ultimately recognize that it is false. So do you want this false statement living anywhere inside you? If not then I ask you to do the following, place one hand over your Heart and again as if you are speaking from there say the following:
“I want this false statement purged from my life now”
Next, do you want the toxic belief itself i.e. “I am an addict” to be living inside you? If not and you wish to purge it once again go into your Heart and command it to be purged from your life.
Now focus on how you feel in your Heart region. You may experience some positive and uplifting feelings there. If you like this experience then simply affirm this to yourself and they will only get stronger.
Now I am going to ask you to notice what impact the following statement has on you when you read it this time. Ready? Here goes:
“I am an addict”.
I can guess that statement feels completely untrue or at least much less true to you right now. If you like that shift then simply affirm that to yourself via your Heart and you will feel even more empowered.
If you like what you have just experienced and would like to further your journey to your empowered self then kindly visit the web site below where you can learn more about an amazing process that will help you do this. There you can also request an introductory free 1 hour telephone consultation that will permanently transform your life.
Nick Arrizza MD, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor is an International Life, Executive, Organizational Tele-Coach, Author, Keynote Speaker, Trainer and Facilitator. He is also on Faculty at Akamai University in Hawaii. He is the CEO and Founder of Arrizza Performance Coaching Inc. and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP). A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone Consultation is available upon request. (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)